i hopped onto my blog favorites & came across jozen’s (www.untiligetmarried.com). i swear he is the male version of carrie bradshaw- sex and the city from a man’s stance. i once again for the 77th time fell in love with his words- until i lingered upon the post “just because i want to sleep with you, doesn’t mean i’m disrespectful”. basically he says women misinterpret men’s actions. wanting to sleep with someone is the ultimate compliment, and that we should be offended if we’re placed in the “i see you as a sister, you’re so ugly why would i ever wanna see you naked” category.
i’d have to admit that women often misinterpret men’s actions, but not as often as we hit the bull’s eye. haven’t you ever noticed that men tend to think with their “smaller head”? specifically after an adios, 2 shots of patron, some yager bombs, & a bottle of beer. for that time being they don’t care about how excited you are for this weekend’s socal trip, or how dope the new L. boogie joint is. all he cares about is how fast he’ll be able to unhook your bra & slip off those panties. we are women, meaning (for the most of us) it will take more than just a cute face, sexy arms & rock hard abs for us to hop on that (unless you’re joseph gordon levitt of course). some - wait, scratch that.. a WHOLE LOT of emotional connection would be nice. finding me attractive, and wondering what i look like under my hellzbellz tank & levi’s 535’s is flattering. BUT simply seeing me as your quick fix is straight up disrespectful, especially when our friendship was on point. & damn it would hurt if i lost one of my favorite homeboys cuz i put out or just cuz i didn’t. why do boys (yes boys) insist on ruining a good thing for some sweaty in outs — aka empty sex? wanting to sleep with me isn’t insulting. wanting to sleep with me with no intention of taking it mentally further is.
a dude will go to far lengths when he thinks he’s gonna get the goods. such as wait for hours on 10th street while you make it home from the club, make false promises, swear he’d lock you down if only you weren’t so far, offer to buy your roundtrip ticket to new york, & travel two hours on grey hound to crash your girls day out. etc. yet once he get’s what he wants, the most you’re gonna get is a 3 word text at 2 in the morning saying “what’s good ma?” which we all know is code for “can you come over?”
don’t get me wrong, i’m not sexist.. this can also go vice versa ‘cause there’s many romantically challenged females among us as well. for example:
girl: “why don’t you want to sleep with me?”
guy: “i do want to sleep with you. i do. just look at you. but i’ve been down that road before.. slept with women too quickly.. and i’m still single. so my new thing is.. i just want to sleep with someone i care about & i really think i can care about you.”
i guess some dicks got it right (no pun intended), but for the rest — mind you, we are more than just curves & worth more than one night (or morning). believe it. so no-wanting to sleep with me will never be the ultimate compliment.
ps: thank you jozen for curing my writer’s block.
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